11 Misconceptions – Twin Flame Journey

Currently many Twin Flames are navigating through a Spiritual Journey and are often confused with many things while dealing with this experience, separation and the overall challenges the journey has thrown in front of them. This confusion is ought to happen because  there is so much contradictory information floating around on the internet.

In this article, I have listed some major misconceptions, which may strongly affect twin flames on their path! It is important to understand and recheck with yourself if you are not falling for any of these.

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1. I need to “help” my twin flame to awaken, heal and progress so that I can fasten the process.

“Awakening” is a Divine phenomena. It is an inner click. It can not be controlled by you or me or anyone else! Your Twin Flame needs to come to a certain point in their own journey to awaken to the divinity of your connection; which happens from within. Not by someone making them realize it.

We always tend to mistake this part of twin flame journey. As we are more aware of the spiritual side of this connection, we always tend to feel that we are awakened and it is now our responsibility to awaken our twin!! However, no human being can initiate or ignite an awakening in another human being. Some people may be catalysts in doing it, but it is not happening because of them.

When it comes to Healing: Healing happens on subconscious level. We are not consciously doing anything in our control to heal our twin flame. We do not even know what needs to be healed. The issues may go back to several past lives.

When twin flames connect and disconnect several times during this journey, and as they progress in their journey, the healing is automatically happening.

What we forget in this journey is that we are playing out our roles and the divine has plotted all the main milestones for both the twins perfectly. What we need to do is – play our part with great attention and focus. It is not out job to “help” our twin flame. We are neither capable to do it, nor is it in our control.

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2. If I tell my twin flame that we are twin flames, they will come back.

It seems really a great idea, but well…you can not make them come to you by telling them what you feel and what twin flames are.

If you all of a sudden (mostly out of desperation) tell them about the concept of twin Flames, there are chances that they will not agree with you or they will agree and nod their head to this concept but will not really get it. For that, they need to arrive at that realization on their own.

They are not running from you because they don’t know the label Twin Flames. They may be aware of your connection in some way. The reason for their running is something else, which is more related to their inner issues.

Theoretically understanding what twin flame is – will not help them to come to you. For eg. Going on the moon yourself and knowing about the moon from someone else – are two different things. Former is an experience and later is the information.

Them realizing about the connection and their coming back to you is NOT related and both the things are not in your control. It is better to leave it up to the Divine and focus on your own inner work. When we focus on ourselves understanding this, it is also going to affect our twin flame. Sooner or later he/she is going to follow.

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3. I am spiritually “ahead” of my twin flame, it is THEM who now need to “come up to my level.”

It is very important to understand that every human being understands and discovers their own spiritual side in different ways. The way you understand and seek spiritual things, it is not necessary that another person will exactly understand and seek it the same way you did or understood. There are a million ways to experience and understand spirituality.

So in the context of twin flames, it is not necessary that your twin flame will experience and understand spirituality exactly the same way you did. Hence here is no point in judging and analyzing them on their understanding and interest in spirituality based on YOUR understanding. Understand that your understanding is limited.

Many awakened twin flames start feeling that they are “ahead” of their twin flame in spiritual understanding, but that’s not true. Your twin flame can be spiritually way more mature than you! Only thing is they are not “aware” about their spirituality yet. Being spiritually aware and being spiritually mature, are two different things.

What is important to understand, is we are taking on ROLES to play here. You have chosen to be the spiritual one and your twin has chosen to be the matrix twin. This doesn’t mean that they are spiritually less advanced than you. They could be way advanced than you spiritually, but in this life, in the twin flame journey, they have chosen to be the matrix twin.

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4. Only thing stopping our connection is the spouse! Spouse is the villain of our love story!

Twin Flames who are married to different partners are often dealing with complex situations. Being married to someone else adds up to the guilt feeling while dealing with an intense and strong pull towards their twin flame which is most of the time not really intentional.

Naturally their marital life gets affected in some or the other way and many start feeling that if they were not married, everything would go well and their spouse is the major obstacle in their union! That is not true!

Some twin flames have really caring and understanding spouses. Mostly they are the soul mates, who agreed to support you passively in your twin flame journey. By being your companion, helping you cope up with life in your separation. They do not know this consciously; but are the reason why you (as a twin flame) can learn your lessons in separation and also clear karmic debts while being with your soulmate.

With some twin flames, things are not working out with their spouses. It has become bland, loveless, toxic or even abusive in some cases. Most probably they are with their karmic partners, clearing karmic contracts. ( In abusive scenarios, one should take the decision of getting out of marriage, irrespective of meeting a twin flame.)

In whichever way – It is high time twin flames stop making your spouse a villain of your story.

You are in separation  and are with your spouse because of a reason. Your spouses are carrying a certain role passively in your journey and they are equally important. Either they are supporting you or they are helping you to clear karma. When time comes, things will fall in place on their own.

All twin flames need to respect their soulmates/  karmic partners and their twin flame’s karmic partner as they are souls, who are actively or passively being an important part of your journey. Never look at them as hurdles. They are there for a reason.

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5. I need to “hold on” my life till my twin flame returns.

Twin flame journey is all about learning how ‘not to hold on’ while you believe and are open to the unexpected!! 🙂

When the separation happens and your Twin Flame goes away, many are wanting to wait for their twin flame forever. I can understand that – as you lose interest in dating others and your only interest is your twin flame. And as it is advised to be open, our twin flame can show up at any point of time, anywhere in our life in future.

But, this certainly does not mean we should wait and hold our life for them to return. As doing that does not serve the purpose. Holding on for them makes you be in the state of “waiting” and “expectation” for uncertain period of time making you feel disappointed, anxious, desperate, vulnerable. Eventually you start living in a vibration – which is much negative and completely not favorable to attract union.

We need to learn to live life and love life even when they are not around. You can definitely meet new people, date them if you want, explore new things, learn new things get different experiences.

Personally in my journey my twin flame always showed up multiple times, when I had least expected. And that each coming back, holds a huge significance for both of us in this journey.

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6. I have surrendered, now I should not think about my twin flame, I should forget about them.

First it is important to understand what you are surrendering and to whom you are surrendering. You are surrendering your doubts, anxiety, logic – to the Divine.

Surrender does not mean to have to stop to even think of your twin flame. It is not possible. Twin flames share the energy between them and feel each other all the time. There is nothing wrong in thinking or remembering them, when you are practicing surrender.

If you try to forget them, you are creating a resistance internally. And resistance is the first thing which should NOT be there in the surrender state.

True surrender is: Putting all your worries, doubts to the divine and believe in the path you are on 100%. Being in 0 resistance zone.

So if you remember your twin flame, send them love and smile. That is the most natural state you can be in.

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7. I need to be “sexually loyal” with my twin flame, and they need to be loyal with me, After-all this is a sacred connection.

Even though sexual pull and attraction is very much intense in Twin Flame connection, it is NOT about being sexually loyal. This connection is NOT a conventional relationship. ( and a connection with a spiritual purpose)

Some people try and attach the sacredness of the connection to sexuality. That is completely out of context. The sacredness of the connection has much much more to it than attaching it to sexual aspect.

Commitment, give and take, ground rules, morale, dos and don’ts  – A typical conventional earthly romantic relationship will have all such expectations and necessities to make that relationship work. If the partner does not follow it’s rules, the relationship is over!

The twin flame dynamic is completely different. There are many who are meeting their twin flame while they are in a happy marriage, or a relationship and their twin flame too is in a happy marriage. Most Twin Flames never officially date each other and may not involve sexually with each other, I have known some who have met their twin flame only once in their life…

Twin flame connection is NOT about being sexually committed, loyal, marriage or having kids. It is not about feeling possessive, claiming your right on them. It is completely not about that.

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8. I am the one who is suffering and my un-awakened twin flame gets way with everything and enjoying his life!

Your twin flame is not getting away with everything. It seems like that from the other side. In fact their confusion is much more than yours. You, as an awakened twin, have realized what this connection is all about. Somewhere you understand the bigger picture, that there is something more than you thought and it is not a normal attraction one would feel for someone.

But your twin flame (most runners or matrix twins) is completely unaware of this bigger picture. They may be in the process of awakening, but after awakening also they get more into a fix. I feel they are going through more stuff than you do . As you are aware of the Divine intervention, you have an option to believe in the divine and believe that they would return. Most runners do not even have that option as they don’t understand whats going on.

Another way of looking at it is:
They have already learnt their lessons either in this life or past lives. It is YOU, the awakened twin who needs to finish your part. YOU need to go through certain lessons to come up to their level.

Secondly, in twin flame journey, there are pre-fixed roles both the twins play. You are playing your part being spiritually aware. They are playing theirs in matrix way. That is how it is designed. So none from the pair is getting away, both have to play their roles and go through what they are supposed to go through.

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9. There are stages in the twin flame journey – and we need to pass those stages one by one at ones!

That is NOT true! There are NO stages in the twin flame journey. The internet is full of articles which describe the twin flame stages, but it is kind of misleading. The phases in the twin flame journey are non-linear. Any stage can be experienced at any time, it varies person to person.

Someone had only written down the stages in the certain sequence, to put some sort of a structure to this experience. The term  “stages” gives you a wrong notion of some sort of “levels” which you need to climb. But it is not like that.

Secondly, these phases or stages do not have any set time frame. Most experiences you go through, and their timeline highly depends also upon what YOU do to seek, understand and learn.The time frame can vary person to person.

If something is not learnt even after going through a certain scenario, it will repeat again and again. These so called stages can repeat in random order…till you fulfill the purpose.

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10. Meditation and healing is “Inner work!” which will lead me to union.

Many people feel that they have to really sit down closing their eyes to do some inner work. Inner work is NOT healing and meditation. Meditation is a “tool” to connect to higher realms/cleanse energies. Healing is a kind of cleansing. Both these things are NOT inner work.

Inner work is all about being aware of your thoughts, identifying what issues you are dealing with, and overcoming those issues. And acknowledging it as your learning.

For eg. Sometimes your twin flame is triggering you and those experiences will make you aware of certain things; which will make you wiser and mature.

I started looking at other people and their relationships in a completely different way and I could empathize with people, I could respect them more only because I went through a certain experience. I also became aware of my learning. One can call that – inner work.

It is important to ponder that what you are experiencing, what you are reading, what information you are gathering, how are you connecting the dots, realize things – “and convert it into KNOWLEDGE and WISDOM.” — this process is inner work!

This is a continuous process, any twin flame at any point in their journey should do only this. Then only you are truly transforming yourself for the better.

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11. Twin Flame Union – is about getting together physically and staying under one roof! Happily ever after!!

I see many Twin Flame waiting desperately for a ‘romantic’ union where the runner would come back, and all will be merry. Well, I am not saying that would not happen. But a twin flame union is much more than staying under one roof physically like a couple.

Twin Flames have higher purpose in coming together, and that is certainly not about just living a conventional happy life together. By the time they will be in union, I assume that their mission would have got activated and they would be already working on their mission. That would be the true purpose of them being together in the physical ‘realm’ = not necessarily under one roof.

*There may have been (previous) lives where you were husband-wife and were staying together – for that whole life, but that doesn’t mean that you were united as twin flames.

Twin flame union happens on 5 levels. Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Etheric and Physical. Before coming physically together, all the other levels are probably achieved.

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